Don't judge me

Don't judge me because of where I'm from

It's where I'm going that matters 

Don't judge me because of my religion 

It's having faith in myself that's imperative 

Don't judge me about my political stand point 

It's standing with my head held high, self respect, and self confidence that's important

Don't judge me about who I love 

It only matters that I am able to love and worthy of being loved

Don't judge who I am

I'm human just like you

Super Hero

I know a super hero

Who does not wear a cape

But he often fixes toys

With his super powerful tape

He does not leap over buildings

Or spin a fancy web

But can chase away all monsters from underneath my bed

He doesn't double in size 

Or turn the colour green

But when he builds a fort with me

It's the best I've ever seen

He doesn't wear a suit that fires guns

Or laser beams 

But when I wake at night crying 

He always fixes my bad dreams

He can not turn invisible 

Or out run a speeding train

But when I fall off my bike

He can take away the pain

My super hero is special 

The best I've ever had 

You may know him by a code name 

But his hero name is Dad 

The politician

The devil cries out through the wind

To the mighty who have blatantly sinned

Who take from the ones who are already poor

And gave to the greedy always needing more

He sees you hiding so cowardly by

I am innocent you shamefully cry

My job I was doing you try to explain

Begging forgiveness when judgment day came

The devil calls out to you his friend 

To live together in your fiery end 

I did the best that I could do 

You shout to the devil who's waiting for you 

Your best you say with all your might

But that doesn't really sound quite right 

Your best would clearly have been far more 

If you were half the man you were before

If you were still the man looking to lead

Instead of the politician driven be greed

If you were the man that promised to please

Instead of the lier now begging on his knees

Forgiveness your people can give for your sins

But not I for I am the hell your torture within 

Woman to Woman

Lately I have noticed that more and more women struggle with supporting other women. (Especially in a certain women's support group)

This baffles me. Granted it is not all women, but a good majority.

They seem to have very little tollerence for anyone's support or advice that is being offered, if said advice isn't exactly what they want to hear. Which leads me to the question, why were they even asking for advice in the first place then?

I understand that some women have strong views and opinions, but I don't see the need to make others feel bad about there views if they differ.

And the amount of bashing eachother and belittling is rediculous!

There is definitely one or two that seem to have nothing better to do than to try and make others feel bad about themselves.

Now I'm well aware that the mature thing to do is to leave the group, forget about it, I don't need that in my life.

But there is a part of me that hopes that they will get better, that these women will grow up, learn to treat others as they would have others treat them. And be classy, intelligent women and build each other up, instead of knocking each other down.

Then I hate to admit that there is another small, tiny, minuscule even, part of me that can't turn away. The group is a train wreck, you know you shouldn't, but you have to look.

Occasionally you can get good advice and answers to questions, but the few bad apples seem to be taking over the whole bunch.

As women we need eachother. We need a good girls night every now and then. We need to giggle about silly things while eating junk. Cry at a sad movie and jump and scream at the scary ones together. We need eachother to tell us if our jeans make us look fat, and to share clothes and secrets with.

Our girl fiends, best friends, sisters, mothers, auntes, and grandmothers are our alies, they are the only ones who have any idea what we are going through. Girls need eachother, we are a team, all of us! And a team is only as strong as their weakest player. So it's time we make them all strong! 

Balance

After trying so many different diets and failing, I have come to the conclusion that you have to make diet choices that are realistic. Cutting out carbs and going fad, I mean gluten free completely. Is not realistic!

You may do it for a while, but it won't last. It can't, life will get in the way. So my theory is, cut down, not out!

I only cut out the things I will not miss/don't really like all that much anyway. Like spaghetti, or MacDonald's. 

Lowering carb intake is okay. Cutting it out completely will leave you tiered, hungry, constipated, and miserable. You will eventually give that up and gain more weight than you lost in the first place. 

Making a healthy lifestyle choice is far better than dieting!

Lower your salt intake drastically!

Use a measuring cup to monitor carbs.

And have one treat day a week instead of one treat a day. 

Use smaller plates and drink more water. Lemmon water is great. And if you struggle drinking water (like I do) use a cup with a straw it's easier.

Try making your own juices. I use the nutribullet, I don't like pulp so I strain it and make muffins or Popsicles with the pulp.

All the changes you make are going to make difference, how much of a difference depends on how committed you are. I was working out for well over a year and frankly wasn't getting anywhere. I would loose a pound then gain two. Loose four and gain back three. It was totally frustrating.

I haven't been able to work out for almost six months now due to a foot injury. I have been watching what I eat like crazy, lowering portions and eliminating foods I didn't care about eating. I've been impressed at how much that makes a difference. Considering I've barley been able to walk around the house, let alone go for a walk or run on the treadmill I should have gained weight, at least a few pounds and surprisingly I haven't. I have actually lost two pounds.

I think what you eat has a huge impact on your weight, far more than I ever realized.

If I go out for dinner I still try to eat somewhat healthy. But I occasionally splurge on dessert and I don't really guilty at all. I tend to share the dessert at least, but truthfully I couldn't eat a whole meal and dessert in one sitting anyway. 

It's all about balance, at the end of the day, you do want to be thin and miserable.